Have you heard it? Seen it? I know you have….Now is the time to lose weight, start new habits, lose some weight!
Your New Year’s Resolution!!!….that 90% of people DON’T keep!
It's like people are cramming it down your throats! Well, I am not disagreeing with the fact that we can all eat a little healthier and do something different everyday to feel better about ourselves and make some changes.
But why not do it on your terms.....I mean, every plan doesn't work for everyone. You kind of have to look at yourself, look at your habits, and do what works for you. I'm sorry, but you shouldn't lose 10 pounds in a week, it's not healthy and it's not going to stay off....I call myself a realist, my husband calls me "the dream crusher"! -HA!
I have fought my weight since I graduated from high school because I went off to college and gained the Freshman 50!!! You can read about that here! It's QUITE entertaining! But, it is very hard to get weight off once you have packed it on...but it can be done! Which is why I am posting these pictures.....
These are two before and afters and they kind of make me want to crawl in a hole!!! I NEVER knew I looked like that, BUT I still look in the mirror sometimes and think I do....but this shows me hope, everyday to keep going! Also, 1. my face was really full AND 2. I had no idea my arms were sausages :)
I post these to say, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT. I know how people feel when they say they don’t like the way they look or that they wish they could change the way they look. So over the past 2 years, I have lost about 26 pounds and kept it off (well, I go up and down 3 lbs here and there), but overall - have kept it off.
SO, I thought I'd start the new year off with this letter to myself.....some things I need to hear and basically some advice to take a chill pill! These pictures made me reflect on the past 20 years and how I would’ve done things differently!
I am also starting the year off with a new program that's a little different than anything you may have heard of before....at the end of my letter to myself (sounds crazy huh? Give me a break, I wrote it for a guest post!), there will be a link to head to my little adventure to see what it's all about! Hope to see you over there! Until then, ENJOY this little gem! 😃
I already know that you are strong willed and very opinionated, but if you're going to listen to anyone, listen to me. I know a little bit about life, and a lot about you. I know you have been battling with your weight since you were about 17 years old. Up and down and up and down. Lose weight, feel great. Gain weight, feel bad. It's exhausting and quite frankly stressful. Let me give you my advice for less focus on weight and more focus on happiness. It's called intuitive eating, and man is it hard for people to swallow (pardon the pun, although I also know you have a very good sense of humor)! The definition of intuitive eating is , "a person who makes food choices without experiencing guilt or an ethical dilemma, honors hunger, respects fullness and enjoys the pleasure of eating.” I know I just made your head spin, so read it again....no guilt? no dilemma? enjoy eating? In your mind that may sound impossible, but let me tell you what I wish I would have known before my 46 year old self.
1. Forget the idea of dieting- dieting sounds restrictive and gives you the false hope that there is one particular way of eating that will give you the golden ticket and help you to lose weight. And, you may lose weight on a diet, but if you don't stay on that diet, most people gain back what they lost and more. Intuitive eating is the exact opposite of diet. Instead of listening to what someone else tells you that you "should" be eating, listen to yourself. Your own body will let you know, if you just listen. (Which you are also not very good at - listening is not one of your strong points; now talking - too bad you can't get paid to do that!)
2. Listen to your body- As I mentioned in #1, your body will tell you what you need to know, if you let it. Don't eat until every bite on your plate is gone, or to get to that dessert. If you take your time, and really think about if you are full or not, you will almost always eat less. Lots of times, people eat so fast, that they don't realize they are about to explode until it's too late. I know how much you love sweets and I know that you generally speed through a meal to get to the sweets. Maybe you should try eating something sweet first? You know it's what you want to do anyway, but you don't do it because you think it's not "proper"...(just so you know, go ahead and eat the sweets, you are going to do MANY, MANYthings that are not proper!)
3. Be friends with food- Don't label foods as "good" or "bad" necessarily. People love to label things - good, bad, pretty, ugly, tall, short, blah, blah, blah.....just listen to your body and if there is something you want to eat, eat it! No one said you had to eat all of it right now! Save some for later or half it with someone. That will make you feel good that you are being frugal and sharing (you are good at that! The frugal part more than the sharing part!)
4. Eat for satisfaction - Enjoy your food. Eat for pleasure and make an experience of it. Sit down, take your time, enjoy eating what you want. Throughout the meal, stop and think about whether you are feeling comfortably full and you can quit eating then. Now you also are a very fast mover and don't do anything slowly, so another good idea for you may just be to start with half of whatever it is you are eating. That way, when you are done, you are done. You don't have to stop in the middle of your 30 minute lunch break and see how you feel. And if you are not full after half, eat a small something like some fruit or drink some water. (But be careful with that water thing because you make bunches of trips to the bathroom!)
5. Don't deal with your emotions using food- You are very emotional. Up, down and all around at any given point. You need to figure out ways to deal with those different emotions and not rely on food to help your anxiety, or fear, or loneliness, or sadness, or boredom. You should go on a walk, talk to a friend, write in a journal (you MAY or MAY NOT need to burn that journal one day), or read a book. There are so many things you can do BESIDES eat.
6. Get a little exercise, or a lot- I, of all people, know you don't like to exercise, but you don't have to be a marathon runner. Just get up and take a walk. Make that time to walk with a friend. Or ride a bike - you've always loved bike riding and you know what they say - you don't forget how! Don't hang exercise over your head as the only way to help you lose weight. Think of exercise as a way to make you feel healthy, strong, and alive!
So I hope these little tidbits will help you not be so focused on losing weight and fighting with food for the next 30 years. Concentrate on having fun with your friends and then your husband, kids, and family. Know that you will be the best version of yourself! I'm telling you all of this for your own good so that one day you don't have to tell a story about doing an Elle McPherson workout video in your living room and pausing it every so often to get a bite of chocolate cookie dough!!! (Yep, true story). And, so you know that eating that little pint of ice cream when Princess Diana died in 1997 was ok (sorry, you didn't know about that did you?). You felt like you knew her, you went to her wedding (or stayed up all night one summer night in 1981 and watched EVERY SECOND OF IT!). So the ice cream that day was ok, just don't dwell on it. Listen to your body, and it will take care of you! Julia Child said it best, "People who love to eat are always the best people".
Love from yourself,
P.S. Would you believe me if I told you that you were going to become a Registered Dietitian one day, and talk about food all of the time??! Sometimes life turns out just the way it should 😃
WHEW! That's a lot to absorb, but such a true story. So if you are interested in finding out about my New Year adventures, head over to my JENerating a Great Year - 2019 page! (Click the bolded link) Hope to see you there!!!
Have a Great Year!